Last year, I saved a question someone had posted ... "How do I break the Trauma Bond? He is all I know." This resonated with me as I tend to keep all vows I make (and this has been detrimental). So, I need to research when a modern day Christian can feel no moral pangs about walking away from a commitment, romantic or otherwise ... I know there are times.

A trauma bond often has cycles ... abuse and "intermittent affection." This speaks to me to investigate further as I think that conditions like Disassociation can be manipulated by Traumatizers and I want to figure out how to break those cycles (including how to take a stand when you still have to associate with someone but have removed yourself from their daily presence .... and they STILL try to mess you/your life up, of course).

The harm can be:
Physical
Emotional
e Psychological
---The Cleveland Clinic has an article about what Trauma Bonding really is and how to recognize the signs.

So, such people use kindness and love. Do they really love? I think they manipulate your HOPE and the tendency to invest(vow and commitment). For me, in a couple of relationships, the man emphasized how much he had supposedly been cheated upon and hurt ... this, of course, made me put so much effort into my (natural)utter faithfulness and expression of devotion.

---verywellhealth identifies the 7 stages of a Trauma Bond and how to get help.

__________________________________________ This healing post is a work-in-progress.